But you didn’t visit me in this post for this – Did you? You know better. What I’ll share below is not based on scientific grounds, but on experience, experiments, and extra-marriage activities (ooops, this part should have been dropped out). It took me some time to define this, but I think I’m pretty close now, while it is still wide open for discussion and explorations. And no, it’s nothing new. It goes back to childhood, well not exactly – to Freud, and more accurately: to immediate satisfaction vs. postponement of gratification.
Yet another blow of that smoke, fella?
Let me explain the title first:
Golf, and many other sport activities, allow you to to certain actions that are instantly rewarded on success. There is even physical body changes, adrenalin pumps, joy of success, or even a cone of shame (see the movie UP from Pixar).
TV on the other scale seems a relaxing, no brainer activity. Yet it provides constant and effortless audio-visual inputs, for people to mess up their minds and numb their brain cells. Yet, most of us spend some scary time of our life in front of this black rectangle of doom.
Chocolate (or pick your edible addiction) is slightly different – we have inherent survival needs for food. Yet Chocolate, a “healthy” repository of glucose, is what exists in our blood. Hence no need to undergo complex chemistry: blood gets what it wants, and gets it now – our biological fuel without fire, leading us nicely to the last one…
Smoking, yet another form of addictive substance. Yes, most of us who smoked, started because we wished to be cool, or to get laid, be accepted, or because there was really nothing better to do in fecking . However, smoking is often a breaker, if not a glimpse of fresh air, and use as such in smokers daily routines.
Those samples share this in common: they show how we all engage in activities that bring us immediate relief. While we all appreciate the needs for the “greater good”: long-term satisfaction from challenging achievements, self-improvement, fame and glory, or perhaps some cash – this is often tiring and grinding. So this brings me directly to the priorities system I suggest, for actually managing tasks:
- Work in “waves” fitting your natural normal day “productivity” times. For more information on “hot times” see heatmapping.
- DO some things of the “Importance”, “Quadrant II” (Stephen Covey), “High-Value”, “50k view” or any other horizon of your choice – all depriving you from instantanious gratifications.
- Then DO some things just to feel good, V marks, getting things done – whatever you want to call it. Yes, they may be not important, or fit long-term values. Still do them as long as you need to get the adrenalin or buzz or raise your energy levels (“golf“), do things effortlessly almost auto-pilot (“TV“), things that bring immediate good feel results or plain bodily needs like eating (“chocolate“) or just your form of breakouts (“smoking“).
Your priorities should be to weave in your tasks now and future, pleasures with growing, instant satisfaction with deffered gratifications.